Seven Months - My memories of a Love story

Introduction

Anyone who has ever been in a relationship will understand that the timing of saying things is very important. For example, if you go and chat someone up in a pub you first line should never be “I plan to have children with you, do you want a drink?”. You start slowly and even if in your heart you are excited almost beyond control you pull the reigns. The “I think I’m falling in love with you” or straight forward “I love you” statement is something that comes at least a few months in but usually longer…. For me and Sue it took around 14 days.

I broke the ice first and I remember thinking to myself “what are you doing?!” For the first time in my life I saw pure perfection, pure beauty and a true soul mate. She shared my ridiculous knack of being over sensitive and slightly neurotic in thoughts (something I attribute to being an identical twin) but also we had shared beliefs in the beauty of life and of the underlying goodness of ALL people.

Sue could not understand cruelty or why people could say things to upset others, again something that I was able to empathise with and therefore it made us perfect to help each other through such thoughts. For myself while the memories are fresh, but perhaps also for those who have not seen Sue for a while, I have decided to write down the defining memories from the last seven months I shared with someone I truly loved.

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For Sue:

Sue, not sure I can find the words to do you justice. …can I refer you to what Becks has said and add, ‘And then some!’

It’s so true what everyone says…you’re a fantastic and wonderful person and I won’t let you go, you’ll always be in my heart and I will think of you in the times we would have shared.

We spent a lot of time growing up together since meeting at kung fu when you were 9 (Steve got it wrong! :P). Times I’ll NEVER forget and am so grateful for. Saving cats at the bottom of Dudley Gardens that accidentally hung themselves on fences with their collars. Debating the best way to cook instant noodles. Singing ‘Goodnight Sweetheart’ til the early hours of the morning with Steve doing the low bit! - “D- de- de- de- derrrr…” Your birthday sleep over where I was the only one not from your school and 2 years older than everyone, you made me feel so wanted.

Sue, you’re an amazing person loved by so many. You mean so much to me too and I hope that you knew that. I love you so much. I will miss you.

Goodnight Sweetheart, I’ll see you in the morning.

Joe. Xxxx

Best of times

I met Susan along with a lot of other friends many years ago when I joined a local Martial Arts club. I realize now that one of the reasons I actually stuck with this club for as long as I did was because it was an opportunity to meet my group of friends at least twice a week. We did so much together; birthday's, basketball, skating, swimming, karaoke, even kung fu field trips :-) If you look at the photos below you'll see that the adventures recently continued at Ben Nevis :-)

In 1999 I left the UK to live in Canada and I lost touch with most of my friends in England. Last year when I came back on vacation, my brother hosted a party at his place. I thought I'd invite my old friends but I didn't really expect many of them to show. To my surprise practically everyone turned up, including Susan. She came all the way from Manchester! I'm so glad to have had that opportunity to reconnect with her. I'm not surprised to see how many friends she made over the years and how profoundly she touched other people's lives. I think she always had that "spirit" that many of you have described.

When I found out that we'd lost Susan I haven't been able to stop thinking how sorry I am that she's no longer with us, and that she's left so many close friends behind. I'll never forget the great times we had in our small group, they will always be an important part of who I am today.

I'm sorry we lost you Susan. I know you've gone to better a place and that somewhere out there you're smiling :-)

Thinking of you

Raj

My best friend Sue

Sue was and always will be my best friend. She was so beautiful, intelligent, witty and sometimes a little scatty shall we say. Her energy, spirit and inquisitive nature will never be forgotten, and of course that cheeky Chinese grin of hers that always seemed to get her out of trouble! Sue had time for everyone, from her family and close friends to someone she had only just met; always providing an ear and a shoulder to cry on however big or small the problem. She taught me so much about myself and about life in general that I will take with me forever. We laughed and cried together and shared our thoughts all the time...even living together we would still chat on msn most days deciding what to have for dinner or catching up on the latest gossip!

We met 4 years ago at Manchester University where we both started our Masters degrees together. As soon as we started chatting I realised what a lovely, kind girl she was who took people under her wing and made them feel at ease right away. Even though I hardly knew her back then I found myself able to tell her things that I would only talk to much closer friends about. She really was a great listener and would always try to offer the best advice she could. We became very good friends and decided to live together the following September when she started her PhD and I got my "real job". We lived together ever since in the same house in Fallowfield, with Andy, Ant, Jo, Rach, Keira, and Bridget very briefly, coming and going over the last 3 years.

There are so many memories to write about this amazing girl who I was priveliged to know and be a close friend to. I hope she knew just how special she was to me and so many others.

Im missing you already babe, and will never forget you!

All my love

Becks
xxxxxxx

My dear friend! Sue

Words can't describe how I and many other people fell at the moment..

Sue was a great friend! and I'll miss her so much!

I've known Sue and Sam since they were 11 years old! and I am so honoured to have shared
so many great memories, together. Sam, I remember looking after you guys, during weekends, and holidays, I have seen you both grow up into beautiful and amazing people.

Our "Kung fu" and "Survive and Save" days were just the best! my life has definately been enriched with you in it, and Sue, you will live forever in my heart!! and Memories..

I believe that Sue has clearly touched so many other people in her lifetime as well, and we can all be ever so proud of her...

I hope to see you again, maybe in Heaven or another life...

XXX Your friend
Steven Kwon

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